How to heal from insecure attachment in adults
In an ideal world, infants would be lovingly welcomed and cared for by their main caregivers, bond well, and reap the benefits of secure attachment their first two years. They…
Holiday tips for highly sensitive people
Holidays. Love them or hate them, if you're going on one and you're highly sensitive, or you have highly sensitive people as your travel companions: get prepared!! HSP flashpoints typically…
A non-ideal day
I wrote out my ideal day. It had all the usual things in it that I wanted to get done on a daily basis. Sleeping, eating, working, family time, fun,…
What’s a coaching session with Sue really like?
Late summer 2017, I met Andy Clark of the Here in Holland podcast. We got talking, and to cut a long story short he came to interview me about my…
On anger and spiritual progress
At its simplest, anger is 'I don't want this,' amplified. Its sibling, frustration, is 'I want this and I can't have it,' amplified. It's human nature to experience wishes, wants,…
How to get out of pain
It's easy to get stuck in pain. Physical pain takes over your body. Emotional pain takes over your body, mood, emotions, and thoughts. Existential pain takes over your thinking and…
Some observations on emotional pain
Emotional pain hurts It's pain - it hurts. As dull or as sharp as physical pain. The McGill pain index provides a fascinating range of descriptors, should you be intrigued.…
Cluster headaches
Sometimes, I get headaches. Whether they're cluster headaches or migraines, I've no idea. But they hurt. I'm going to call them cluster headaches for now, as the pain maps more…
Stop over-reacting!
How often have you been triggered into a total hissy fit by the words "Stop over-reacting!!" When we're over-reacting, we definitely don't want to be told about it. In fact,…
Finding your deepest motivation
Me: So what's your motivation then, what really drives you, deep down? H: It's [insert detailed, well-thought through statement here] Me: Erm, no. H: [startle] Me: It's something deeper. This…