How to get out of pain
It's easy to get stuck in pain. Physical pain takes over your body. Emotional pain takes over your body, mood, emotions, and thoughts. Existential pain takes over your thinking and…
Some observations on emotional pain
Emotional pain hurts It's pain - it hurts. As dull or as sharp as physical pain. The McGill pain index provides a fascinating range of descriptors, should you be intrigued.…
What are you ready for?
Are you ready for yourself? Are you ready for the limitless love that's in your heart already? Are you ready for a million passions? Are you ready for the…
Why self-help books don’t always work
Long ago, I discovered self-help books that didn't work. Self-development processes that didn't stick. Self-improvement methods that didn't bring about lasting improvements. It's not that these books, processes and methods…
Post-natal numb
Fourteen months after my child was born, I first felt the warmth of my love for him. Fourteen long months of being emotionally shut down came to an end. Functional,…
Trust your process
The further you go on the personal development path, the more you come to recognise and trust the pattern of process. The pattern of how change happens, integration, and adjusting…
Why you don’t know what you’re feeling – and how to fix it
Highly sensitive, highly intelligent people can sometimes be fairly clueless about their emotional life. It seems contradictory - how can someone so sensitive and so switched on be so dim…
Suicidal thinking
I'm no expert on suicidality. But I have had suicidal thoughts. What follows is an account of my experiences, plus my understanding of suicidality more generally. My first encounter…
A strategy to cope with suicidal ideation
This post started life as a Facebook status, Wednesday 12 October 2016. ----------- An update. Feeling the pain is sometimes easier, way easier, than all the things you do -…
Geek numb
The last of the five-part series: glad, mad, sad, bad, flat. First there were glad, mad, and sad. (Geek happy, geek rage, geek sad) Then bad entered the mix. (Geek…