Being ungrounded happens a lot. You feel a bit off. Not quite there. Or completely over-excited.
You’ve lost touch with yourself. Lost touch with the earth. Lost touch with the reality of the situation you find yourself in.
Don’t worry. It happens. It’s not ideal, but you can handle it.
When you’re ungrounded, you might do all kinds of not-necessarily-the-best-thing-for you things. From eating too much (or too little), to staying up too late or lying in bed too long in the mornings. Making unwise decisions. Rushing into things. Procrastinating and delaying on things you shouldn’t delay on. Unnecessary purchases. Picking arguments. Lots of things.
The thing about being ungrounded is that sometimes it’s hard to tell if you’re grounded or not. Sometimes you think you’re grounded, then you actually get grounded and think “oh shit, was I really that ungrounded earlier?!”
You can be ungrounded for months – even years – and not notice. You can vary in your groundedness: more at the weekends, less during the week, depending on what you’re doing and who you’re with.
Groundedness is on a continuum. From super totally grounded (I think only a Buddha can do this) to really really ungrounded (though you’re never 100% cut ungrounded – there’s always some connection there).
Everyone has their own particular set of habits and traits when they’re ungrounded. You’re no exception to this.
These traits follow a few main patterns, with more or less energy involved and available in each type.
Have a look at these, listed from low energy to high. See which one(s) you recognise yourself doing.
- Trance/vague-ing out
You’re just not really there. You feel fogged in, away from everything. You feel generically tired, apathetic, lethagic. This mode tends towards depression, being cut off from one”s feelings, motivation, and energy.
- Robot mode
You go very practical, logical and analytical. You’re not aware of your own feelings. You’re certainly not aware of other people’s feelings. You keep going and keep going. You might become sergeant-major-y. You push through. This mode tends towards burn-out.
You talk incessantly. You rush from one thing to another. Your movements are lively, even over the top. You’re full-on, turned up to 11. This mode tends to maintain itself in a whirlwind of busy-ness, occasionally coming back down to earth before spinning wildly off again.
These are the more developed versions of ungroundedness, sustained and built up over a long period of time.
Some of our ungroundedness comes from our upbringing. Some of it from habits we’ve developed along the way – as children or adults. Some of it comes from the situations we put ourselves in.
Whatever the cause, groundedness can initially be developed in a variety of simple ways.
Anything that brings you into better physical connection with yourself and your environment helps you to ground. Sports, movement, dance, walking, yoga. Plus lots of other ways. When you get into grounding, you’ll find that some methods work better for you than others, and some are better for certain situations than others.
In my free eCourse The Basics: Grounding, I take you step by step through what grounding is and how to do it. Two guided audios take you through self-awareness and grounding exercises.
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